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So, Nine Inch Nails "Closer" just came on my playlist, and oh, how I loved that song when it came out. Which happened to be when I was in college in Utah.

I really struggled when I first moved to Utah in the early 90s because - while I was a devoted Mormon lady - I grew up in the 'mission field.' (Translation: outside of Utah or the suburbs of Phoenix/Boise.) My family was old school LDS, but I was one of the only Mormon kids at my school and I really liked music, regardless of the lyrics being naughty (And sometimes because of the lyrics being naughty.)

SIDE STORY: remind me to tell y'all one time about picking "Father Figure" to dance to with my dad at a church dance, because when I was 14 I was an idiot and didn't know what the song was about. OH MY GOD, I am laughing so hard right now thinking of how that was the most awkward daddy-daughter waltz OF ALL TIME. I was such an idiot child. Hoo boy, that's a great and embarrassing story right there.

BACK TO TRENT REZNOR. Head Like A Hole was my "closing out my senior year of high school" jam, and I've loved him ever since. Words are words, you know? Dirty words, I mean, not like slurs or something. So the song is "I want to fuck you like an animal" and everyone's been copying that video of his ever since because it is AWESOME and yeah. I liked that song.

So I'm in Utah, on a drive through SLC with my BFF Chrissy and our "guy gang," who the two of us were completely in love with. They were not in love with us, they just enjoyed hanging with C and I because we're delightful company. :) We had this big hiking/camping weekend planned in Big Cottonwood Canyon and I had the car we all fit in. So I had it on SLC's awesome radio station (which, isn't that surprising? SLC had AMAZING radio stations) but the song was - of course - edited for the radio.

"I wanna [no sound] you like an animal..." etc. And I'm chair dancing and singing along as I have this car full of boys I'm crushing on, and they all get quiet. After say, the second time the chorus comes around one of them says quietly (but firmly), "Laura? How about we change this, please?" Like, "The power of Christ compels you?"

And I felt such shame in that moment, because I was singing about dirty dirty sex and these boys were all return missionaries and I wanted them to like me, and they clearly did not think I was worthy. And I changed it. UGH.

Another point in time, I was walking with two of these same guys to our Honors Society meeting (like that back door brag I slipped in?) and I had on a pair of jean cut shorts that used to be my old boyfriend's. They were so cool at the time: Girbaud jeans (lol) that he'd drawn all over. He's an amazing pop artist, so they were totally unique, baggy in the best way, and they came to my knees. (This is '92 - '93, btw.) I had a shirt that was fitted with a scoop neck and regular tee shirt sleeves.

Um, I was built like a brick shit-house at the time of this story. 36-25-37, and well-toned from all of the hiking/climbing/etc. that I was doing regularly. I have nice cans. They're not massive like the rest of the women in my family, but it's a good rack. And the shirt was tight. I could breathe, you couldn't track the blood flowing through my veins, nothing like that, but you know - a fitted gee dee shirt with a scoop neck.

And one of the boys refused to look at me as we walked to class. Like all nervous and stuff. And I thought I looked so nice that day with my cute sandals and my head band holding back my sun-kissed and long hair. And finally this boy looked at me, glanced at my chest and snapped his eyes back to the front and said, "Oh, Laura." Like I was naked, or something. Like, how dare I have a woman's body?

(It was really weird in Utah; there were two body types: sturdy or waifish. There was no in between. And I'm Southern. Moreover, I'm Texan. We build girls with butts and boobs down here. And...the men -and some ladies- like it. So while I had low self-esteem, I knew that my body wasn't disgusting, or anything like that.)

For the rest of the time that I lived in Utah, I absolutely struggled to have dates. Ugh, they made me feel so bad about myself, like it was wrong to be happy that I was shaped the way I was.

There's a part of me that wants to take a picture of my boobs in my sexiest bra and spam their facebook walls with them. Hahaha.

Ahem.




In our next installment, I'll tell you all about listening to The Chronic and Snoop Dogg (with Warren G) while living with hippies in the Grand Tetons. :D GOOD TIMES. (Also: screw you and your gee dee balancing sticks and hairy armpits, bitchy girl that always sniffed at me when I was playing this in MY OWN DORM.)

Stories? Oh, I got stories!

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stoney321
Aug. 2nd, 2012 05:24 pm (UTC)
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HAHAHA YAY!!!

We do like meat on bones down here, yes we do. Which I LOVE, TOO. In the words of Patton Oswald, "I don't want to fuck a box kite."

The Tale of Snoop Dogg and The Chronic, by Laura

One of my jobs during the summers when I was in college (for I had many crazy jobs over the years) was working in the Grand Tetons. A professor was a fly-fishing instructor over the summer and got me the job. The BFF also worked there.

I grew up listening to Motown. Staxx Records. Otis. Gladys. Soul Train was on every Saturday in my house. When hip-hop came out in the late 70s/early 80s, I was all over that. I loved everything from the "thinking man's hip hop" to the gangsta rap that was coming out after NWA.

And my college recruited a lot of guys from LA/SoCal for the football and basketball teams. Ahem. That's a story for another day. So there were dudes that grew up in East LA-Compton adjacent that lived in my dorm, and none of the Mormons would talk to them because a) they were black and b) they were possibly gangsters. (LOL.)

I hung out with them, because a) I liked the people I had made friends with and b) they were the only other people that liked that music in Utah. (I had a few guys creep past my dorm one day when I had the door open playing some Easy (motherfuckin') E. Like, they couldn't understand a white mormon girl listening to that. IT IS GOOD, OKAY?)

So the Chronic came out just before Christmas break of '92, and I heard one guy blasting it and was like "WHAT IS THIS MAGIC YOU ARE LISTENING TO?" and he let me make a copy of his CD.
stoney321
Aug. 2nd, 2012 05:30 pm (UTC)
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And it was awesome. It was Fuck the Police but funky. You know this. Anyway! I bought the album myself at Christmas, it hadn't really hit the airwaves yet, and I felt dope as hale.

Of course this led me to Snoop Dogg and the DoggPound, etc. So the next summer (er, '94) was when Snoop's first solo album came out and I was all over that. And then I was in the Tetons, working.

We lived in these employee dorms where everyone lounged in the courtyard playing music (whoever had their radio on just turned it up, and everyone rocked out.) But these are all professional hippies that follow the Dead for a year and sell vegan burritos for gas money, you know. And I like a little of that. I like Neil Young. Etc.

...I just also love me some Warren G. Regulators? MOUNT UP. (lol) So I'm jamming to Snoop in my room with the window open and it's gorgeous outside. I turn it up, because that was how it worked - no one else with their music on, first person to turn it on plays it for all. So I did. And went outside to hang.

And some of the guys were getting into it, because it's AWESOME. (Gettin' funky on the mic like an old batch of collard greens!) And they were probably transfixed by my white ass busting out the rhymes, IDK. But the GIRLS. Oh, they hated it. HATE-D IT. And would constantly say in passive aggressive ways how awful that music was, and who listens to this anyway? (Oh my god, Becky, look at her butt.)

And they'd turn up some fucking Phish or Widespread Panic and stare over at me. BITCH I WILL CUT YOU. IMMA LISTEN TO SOME NATE DOGG, A'IGHT?

I think they may have even said things like, "[Boy's name], come over here and let me braid feathers in your hair," to get them to stop listening to the icky music. "Let's make pulp paper!" Fuck you, hippie. (haha)

Edited at 2012-08-02 05:34 pm (UTC)
evamagick
Aug. 2nd, 2012 06:51 pm (UTC)
YAY! I love your Mormon stories. Probably because it's the exact opposite of everything I've ever experience and I Just Don't Get It. Thanks!
stoney321
Aug. 2nd, 2012 06:59 pm (UTC)
Sometimes I remember this stuff and wonder if it was some sort of fever dream. Then my BFF tells me NOPE, IT HAPPENED and I'm shocked all over again.
lynnenne
Aug. 2nd, 2012 06:52 pm (UTC)
You are STILL built like a brick shit house. You can spam my FB with your boobs anytime.
stoney321
Aug. 2nd, 2012 07:00 pm (UTC)
Aww, thanks Miss Lynne! I WILL GET ON THAT, THEN. ;D
serenelystrange
Aug. 2nd, 2012 08:31 pm (UTC)
I want to be you when I grow up, :)

Lol, ok, I'm already grown. But still. I love your stories!
stoney321
Aug. 2nd, 2012 09:19 pm (UTC)
Haha, I'm glad to hear it! :D
dareu2beme
Aug. 2nd, 2012 08:49 pm (UTC)
wow. I can -kind- of relate. Growing up in a conservative Christian family/community and trying to be all 'awesome' but still fly under family's radar.


Anyway, I love your stories.
stoney321
Aug. 2nd, 2012 09:20 pm (UTC)
Fundies have a lot of similarities, don't we? The shaming, the control... Feh.

But I am glad you enjoyed this! Goodness knows I've been cracking up remembering some of these weird stories.
dareu2beme
Aug. 2nd, 2012 10:08 pm (UTC)
My grandfather was VERY upset with me when I dyed my hair black in Grade 12.... lol
dovil
Aug. 2nd, 2012 09:04 pm (UTC)
One of my all-time favouritist memories was when you took me up on that Angel's Landing climb in order to kill me, and because I was covered in my tears and fear puke you offered, nay insisted, that you walk on the outer part of the climb to save me from falling. I am three times bigger than you. I was then doubly petrified that I was going to not only fall, but KILL YOU as well. I think that's what helped me suck it up, that I was now responsible for someone else's life. Next time I go on a steep climb I'm going to strap babies to myself. What I'm saying is that you are teeny tiny and I am godzilla, and if you didn't fit into the teeny tiny mould back then you must have been surrounded by anorexic hobbits. But just so everyone is clear, you do have a great rack. TESTIFY!

The first time I heard that NIN song was, believe it or not, from a Spike/Angel fanvid. It was an awesome, awesome fanvid, on multiple levels, ahaha.

stoney321
Aug. 2nd, 2012 09:26 pm (UTC)
I have to laugh at "fear puke." Which is totally different from laugh puke. (Is that weird that I throw up to show that I think things are funny?)

THANK YOU FOR CONFIRMING THAT MY BREASTS ARE ADEQUATE TO NICE. I thank you.

OH THAT IS A WONDERFUL VID!! The one killabeez did with Kirk/Spock all those years ago remains my most favorite vid of all time.
dovil
Aug. 2nd, 2012 09:34 pm (UTC)
There were quite a few gentleman along the way that showed their appreciation in the grand tradition of leering and ogling, something to feel proud of Stoney! My sign 'you have to root me to get to her' sure did pay off.
stoney321
Aug. 2nd, 2012 11:10 pm (UTC)
Nothing says appreciation like mountain climbing sex, am I right? Something about the fresh air, the eagles soaring overhead, the elderly people with their walking sticks hurrying past...
ryokomusouka
Aug. 2nd, 2012 09:16 pm (UTC)
Gods, the body hate, the fear of cursing and....UGH.

At least you came out the other side with a sense of humor about it.
stoney321
Aug. 2nd, 2012 09:26 pm (UTC)
If I don't laugh at the crazy, I'd start knocking heads together, I think. ;)
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stoney321
Aug. 2nd, 2012 11:09 pm (UTC)
Sue, we have shared so many stories, it makes sense that one or two slipped past. (And can you stand it? HOW AWKWARD FOR MY FATHER OH MY GOD. It's totally Maeby and Michael Bluth singing Afternoon Delight.)

AHAHAHAHAHA I LOVE THAT THEY HAD THE UNEDITED VERSION. Oh my god. That's fantastic.
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stoney321
Aug. 3rd, 2012 03:58 am (UTC)
I. KNOW.

Oh man. My dad can be a dumbass, but he gets points for keeping the waltz chill and not shaming me. HAHAHAHA
kseenaa
Aug. 3rd, 2012 07:10 pm (UTC)
I LOVE YOUR STORIES! :-D I really really do. :-) They are so interesting. Especially about your time as a mormon. Inside info. I loves it.
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