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HDJM and navel gazing

First, business: HOARDERS RECAP! The question for you today (to be answered there, as that's where the show's production staff reads - and did you notice that some of the complaints we raised last season weren't there this season? Good work, team!) is this:

Do you struggle with sympathy for people who hoard objects (as opposed to grief hoarders) like I do? And why do you think that is?

Also, Teen Wolf, 1.4 is up as is Dexter, Dr. Who, and don't forget we've added Torchwood to our Fridays! <3 Click here for all of that and more. (And Glee in two days!!!)

Second, why oh why did I leave my TV on TLC last night? Here is my VERY RARE talk about 9/11.

I was working for a company that did online trading and tracking at the time, and my boss and I had plans to be in NASDAQ that Monday and Tuesday to meet with their IT staff. For almost three years I had worked daily (over the phone) with traders both on the floor and the Market Makers of both NASDAQ and NYSE.

I had Emily a month before, and wasn't quite up to travel (I had already gone back to work full time - working from home is awesome) so I stayed home. My boss missed her flight. She never got to NYC, as we all know that every airport in the US went on lockdown. I was watching the news and watched the horror as we all did.

I have never been more grateful to have had a child than I was that morning. It still terrifies me to this day that I would have been there when this happened. (NYSE/NASDAQ are a part of the 7 buildings damaged in the attack.)

What has me sobbing every year, though, is the thought of the 343 firefighters that immediately got into their vehicles and raced to the scene, ran inside those buildings and in some cases made it to the 87th floor, their only instinct was to help others. The 343 that never came out. I think of these brave men and women (and the other first responders and police officers and transit authority workers) that said to themselves, "My job is to go into that blaze, into that debris cloud, and I need to help people."

I think about how selfless that is, and how I can talk a good game, but jfc, can you imagine? The sounds of that place. The air (or lack of). I really don't like dwelling on the maudlin (our news does enough of that) so I just want to stress that at this time every year I think about how fucking amazing it is when someone chooses that profession. I don't think there's a more selfless individual than a firefighter.

If you're so inclined, you might consider dropping into your local station house and just telling them thank you. Believe me, they don't hear it enough. There is also the Leary Firefighter's Fund, a wonderful outfit that exists to make sure these guys have the best equipment to insure they come out of a blaze intact.

God damned heroes, the lot of them.


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swmbo
Sep. 11th, 2012 03:42 pm (UTC)
So, just so I fully understand, you now run a site that is all about snarking/commenting on tv shows? THERE IS A REASON I ADORE YOU.

(Ok, there are many reasons. But that is a MAJOR ONE)

[THIS IS THE KIND OF THING I MISS]
stoney321
Sep. 11th, 2012 03:49 pm (UTC)
HOLY SMOKES HAS IT BEEN THAT LONG. Yes!! Loving snark, because I don't want to have to watch a show I hate (or make my writers do that.)

It is the last bastion of happy fangirling on the internet, it seems!

I am beyond happy seeing your name pop up. I know you're busy with ADORABLE NEW NEPHBOS OMG but still. *SMISH!*
menomegirl
Sep. 11th, 2012 06:58 pm (UTC)
Struggle in what sense? Because you think you have too much sympathy for them or not enough? It has to be hard either way, I'd think. I don't watch Hoarders because the show reminds me too much of us having to clean my husband's grandparents' home after my in-laws moved them into their house.
stoney321
Sep. 11th, 2012 07:41 pm (UTC)
Struggle to find empathy for them, for sure. In regards to this show in particular: It's hard when someone appears so "normal" for lack of a better word - this woman maintains a job, is clean in appearance, and doesn't have "hoarder smell" following her, so when she behaves as she does on the show, it's easy to dismiss hurtful things she says as her being a "jerk."

But it's not a mean, snippy woman, it's a woman reacting with fear because of her mental illness dictating how she must think.

And I know the show isn't for everyone. Whatever keeps you feeling good makes sense to me. :)
flaming_muse
Sep. 11th, 2012 07:44 pm (UTC)
<3

Big damn heroes, that's for sure.
stoney321
Sep. 11th, 2012 07:59 pm (UTC)
The kind of person that runs towards something like that with the thought of helping? If I believed in saints...

<3
altyronsmaker
Sep. 11th, 2012 07:57 pm (UTC)
I am a teacher. I get lots of kids who say, when asked what they aspire to be, "I'm going into the military." "I want to be a psychologist." "Doctor." "Lawyer." "Nurse." "IT."

In six years of teaching, I've only had three who wanted to be firefighters or EMTs. That breaks my heart.
stoney321
Sep. 11th, 2012 08:01 pm (UTC)
Well, if it's any consolation - it's almost impossible to get a job as a firefighter or EMT in DFW because of how many there are. :)
shannon_f_r
Sep. 11th, 2012 09:28 pm (UTC)
My great aunt was a hoarder just because. It's hard for me not to think of hoarders without remembering that reek of 50-year-old newspaper, yarn, cigarette smoke, and pee, or all of the efforts that my parents engaged in to try to get her off it, and the way that they still forced us to visit her because they thought that this would help her. In some ways, she was a perfectly normal, functioning old lady: went to mass, drove a car well into her eighties, called friends and relatives, gave us little presents. But then again, you'd go into her apartment and find a stack of used old lady diapers on the floor. She was perfectly nice--except when it came to this one thing, in which case she'd go psycho on my dad for suggesting that anything was wrong. The whole thing kind of pushed me in the other direction: I am fanatical about clutter, and getting rid of it. My husband and I have an ongoing battle about which magazines he is allowed to keep and for how long. I kind of resent that this thing--she died when I was in high school--still has so much power over me (I'm 30 now). So I want to have more sympathy for hoarders, but I find it hard.

Edited at 2012-09-11 09:29 pm (UTC)
stoney321
Sep. 11th, 2012 09:36 pm (UTC)
I can completely understand your lack of sympathy - it makes sense when you've been in an extreme situation like that.

I approach it from this place: I want to be a more sympathetic person, as I grew up in a house where it was normal for my parents to make bigoted and hateful jokes that make fun of people. I want to understand how someone gets to that place and find that it could be adult diapers, or it could be shopping addictions, or it could be compulsively eating food. The way to break past that (in many respects) are the same, and I like learning from that.

But again, I totally understand why this isn't for everyone.
podle
Sep. 11th, 2012 10:15 pm (UTC)
Thank you for what you wrote here about September 11th. To me that is one of the most important things to remember and honor - that human beings tried so desperately to save the lives of others.
stoney321
Sep. 11th, 2012 11:01 pm (UTC)
That's something that gets me every year (and honestly, any time I see First Responders) - how selfless and brave those men and women were.

<3
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