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Cathartic fangirl weekend + navel gazing

First things first, I had my weekend-long party with some of my real life friends (who just happen to be people I've met on LJ) and no one pointed out the mud stains from dirty paws on carpet by the back door, so I consider that a win. :D

While I would love to have everyone over to my home (omg, I'm an introvert and that was a LIE but I don't want to sound like a jerk but seriously, let's get real here) I was very grateful to the small group of girlfriends who visited. (And those of you invitees who weren't able to come, you were missed and loved on!) You never realize how bad things have been until you feel their burden lifted. By which I mean to say how wonderful it felt to have girls I've known for years -- women I've traveled with, shared fandoms, sorrows, heartbreaks and joy with -- sit and drink margaritas with me and really let ourselves relax for a solid weekend.

And apparently Casa de Stoney is getting a good review on Yelp. :D

(Oooh, we made blackberry and Key lime margaritas that were TASTY. They needed tiny crushed ice to be tip-top, though. And flaming_muse? The Mr. told me that he bought me crushed ice and had it in the outside freezer - and I had no idea. Bah! Next time!) I actually lip wobbled and had tears running down my face after I dropped everyone off at the airport because it had been such a wonderfully supportive and fun weekend. I highly recommend doing something really nice for yourself. WHO KNEW?

Because I was so involved with enjoying everyone (and talking fandom, making dick jokes, drinking margaritas, refreshing sunscreen, praising the casting choices on Teen Wolf) I missed huge news for Dallas. Kidd Kraddick, a local DJ that became nationally syndicated, suddenly died.

Kidd Kraddick was a really nice short guy. Ha. He had been on a rock station, and was suddenly fired when they moved to an alternative format. The other DJs played nothing but Hotel California by the Eagles for a week in protest. No, really. But he moved to the cheesy pop station and he was just fine, so.

Cut to: a decade a change later where I'm a recently divorced young woman with two babies. I listened to his morning show on my very long drive into work, the babies in their car seats behind me. It was Christmas season, and they announced a contest for people to rewrite a Christmas carol to win tickets to an upscale restaurant in town. Immediately I reworked "God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen" in my head about the woes of being a single mother looking for a good guy to date, dropped the kids off at daycare, raced to my desk (I was usually one of the first in at the office) and called in with my song. The producers loved it and they put me on the radio in competition with the other callers. Kidd immediately said I won without leaving it to the listening audience and told me how to get to their studio in Las Colinas to pick up my prize.

WHAT I DIDN'T REALIZE was that a part of the contest was to win these tickets to the restaurant and go with this one guy that had called in the day before bemoaning the dating world in Dallas. Whoops.

I get to the studio, and Kidd shakes my hand, chats me up, and quietly asks why I'd consider going on a blind date, seeing as I came off as a sane and nice person myself. Like, why would I need to win a contest just to get a steak dinner with a dudebro?

"...Uh."

He immediately called the restaurant and asked for two more vouchers, gave the guy - who was standing close by, staring at me - two of his own, and sent him on his way. Kidd then invited me back to the studio to meet the rest of the "morning show" and record a commercial, showing me how it all worked in a big studio. (I'd told him how I'd been a radio jockey in college.) I hung out with him talking about his charity and music and his days at the Eagle (the rock station) until two extra vouchers showed up for me. He laughed and said, "Make sure you listen to what the contest is before you jump in next time!" He wished me luck (told me I was funny) and to "keep looking up."

That was his signature line, but he really meant it. He was a nice, positive, friendly guy, and he dedicated his free time to making terminally ill kids feel great about themselves and made a point to give all he could to the kids his charity reached.

It's always a huge loss when someone who is genuinely trying to make the world a better place dies. He was a truly nice person, a glass half full kind of guy, and the world really needs more people like that, not less. RIP to a truly good person.


I'm spending the day figuring out how to move forward on projects that mean something to me, because my lovely friends gave me the will to do so. I'm definitely looking up. <3

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Christy EllaNoise Morrison
Jul. 29th, 2013 02:55 pm (UTC)
I have heard nothing but praise for the man. I come from the vast lands North of Dallas and never heard of him until this weekend. It is always great to hear a story about genuinely great people doing great things. Ain't gonna lie. I had some tears.
stoney321
Jul. 29th, 2013 02:59 pm (UTC)
Kidd's Kids is such a great charity - if a person can listen to those kids talk about how amazing it is to have a full day where they forget they're dying/have cancer, and that person isn't choked up? They might be a robot.

<3
sheafrotherdon
Jul. 29th, 2013 04:58 pm (UTC)
Huzzah for a relaxing, uplifting, rejuvenating weekend! And double huzzah for the projects that are meaningful to you ♥
stoney321
Jul. 29th, 2013 09:24 pm (UTC)
*throws ticker tape parade, puts you on the best float*

Friends making you feel better. WHO KNEW?! :D
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stoney321
Jul. 29th, 2013 09:31 pm (UTC)
I lol'd at bees' knees. I DID. (I like to think I'm the patella to many, not just the one. I'm no Spock.)

OMG, when I realized I'd won a DATE I was mortified. He was such a nice guy. (Knotting is a no? Huh. And here I've recently realized that I'm all: HELL YEAH. I'm as shocked as you.)

You can only go wrong with a California Cab if it's shitty and made of SuperPurple with chunks of oak thrown in. I don't care for a sweet/vanilla finish, but if you do, Clayhouse is awesome and around $10. (Hit my wine list tag for a bunch of recs?) Some merlots are just as fine as their cab sav counterparts and half the price. Just open them up a half hour before you're going to drink it to let it smooth out.
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cappy
Jul. 29th, 2013 07:23 pm (UTC)
I never met the guy- but he was a part of my life since the 80s. I think I was living in the Permian Basin the first time I started hearing about him & being told, "You've got to catch this guy on the air!" so I did, every chance I got. I remember the outrage when he got canned, & I remember the Hotel California Protest!!!

I went through a divorce, several job changes, another disastrous abusive marriage, another divorce, a baby, being a single mom... & one of the first things I did when I got a computer was start streaming his show in the morning as I got ready for work because of course I couldn't listen to him on an actual radio in Ozona. I just found out when he passed that my daughter had become a fan, something I did not know, & SHE was listening to him in the morning as SHE would get ready for work or college classes. It is awesome you got the chance to meet him & confirm to us that he really WAS that genuine, REAL person we 'knew' on the air. I couldn't believe it when my FB started exploding with the news. I cried, at work, over someone I never met but who was such a HUGE part of all my truly formative years-- my 20s & 30s & 40s. The world lost somebody truly special. :'(
stoney321
Jul. 29th, 2013 09:32 pm (UTC)
I was absolutely shocked by the news, too. Just a super nice guy. *hugs*
lostakasha
Jul. 29th, 2013 08:53 pm (UTC)
So delighted to hear you had a lovely visit...but damn my old eyes! I read your headline as "Catholic fangirl weekend + navel gazing" and I thought "NO STONEY DON'T......"
stoney321
Jul. 29th, 2013 09:32 pm (UTC)
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

<3 <3 <3 That's awesome.
brunettepet
Jul. 29th, 2013 08:58 pm (UTC)
What a lovely memory of a truly nice guy.

Glad the weekend was as fun as you'd hoped/
stoney321
Jul. 29th, 2013 09:33 pm (UTC)
It really was a great weekend, and everyone's advice to chill the hell out worked, so THANK YOU for that, too! :)
entrenous88
Jul. 29th, 2013 09:04 pm (UTC)
Let me just leave these here:

♥:*♥:*♥:*♥:*♥
stoney321
Jul. 29th, 2013 09:33 pm (UTC)
*collects them all and puts them in a special box for special things*
beadattitude
Jul. 29th, 2013 09:23 pm (UTC)
I'm so glad you had a wonderful weekend, and wow, what a lovely story. You are the awesomesauce!
stoney321
Jul. 29th, 2013 09:34 pm (UTC)
Boy, did I need a wonderful weekend, too!! <3 <3 <3 *hugs you 'til you squeak*
flaming_muse
Jul. 29th, 2013 09:48 pm (UTC)
I love you soooooooo much, and I'm glad you're feeling replete with spoons! *tosses you a few more, just in case*

What a great story; I'm sorry that he's gone.

And OMG I'm going to DREAM of those margaritas. SO. GOOD.
stoney321
Jul. 29th, 2013 10:22 pm (UTC)
I can ALWAYS use more! <3 <3 <3

(OMG, so there were leftovers of the blackberry limeade, right? I added a splash of club soda to it and the tequila and WOW WAS THAT EVEN BETTER HOW WAS IT POSSIBLE?!)

Hey, did you know? I kind of think you're awesome. And I kind of think we need another vacation, just the two of us, so we can talk shop. *chinfist beams*
flaming_muse
Jul. 29th, 2013 10:45 pm (UTC)
(omg that sounds delicious!)

You know what's funny? I think you're awesome, too! What a coincidence! And any time you are free, I would be THRILLED to have a vacation with just you! THRIILLLLLLLED. You let me know. Sitting across from you and talking is one of the best feelings in the world. <3 <3 <3

I'd be happy to travel back to see you chez toi again, too, if you can't get away for real; the reviews on Yelp and TripAdvisor are glowing, apart from the lack of a mix CD. But I've heard management is taking that under advisement. ;)

OMG I LOVE YOU!
elizardbits
Jul. 29th, 2013 10:56 pm (UTC)
SORRY IT'S JUST THAT I HATE OTHER PEOPLE I CAN'T HELP IT
stoney321
Jul. 29th, 2013 11:17 pm (UTC)
I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND! We'll just have to have a Spanish coastline drunk fest with no extra people some day.

ANY OCEAN COAST LINE THAT IS QUIET WILL DO ACTUALLY AND ALL THE BOOZES
lynnenne
Jul. 30th, 2013 01:32 am (UTC)
I'm so glad your weekend was rejuvenating for you. You deserve it. HUGS.
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turnonmyheels
Jul. 30th, 2013 12:56 pm (UTC)
I hate that I missed the big weekend, but I *know* you guys had a blast and that you got to unwind in that rare way that leaves you feeling full of love and also achingly empty at saying goodbye.

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