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I was riding a high from yesterday in support of the Dallas Pride Parade and my son taking the last (and huge) step in claiming his sexuality and no longer feeling like he doesn't need to be open to anyone and everyone about who he is.

And today he wore a Human Rights Campaign shirt that we got at Pride yesterday to his school. At 8:35am I got a call from him saying he was being made to either change his shirt or wear it inside out. He hung up to get to his next class on time, so I didn't have time to find out what person on staff to yell at, but when I get him after school today I'll find out exactly who to direct my wrath towards.

What shirt did he have on? Was it the one for Astroglide or Ball-Gags-A-Go-Go? HARDLY. IT WAS THIS ONE.Collapse )

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entrenous88
Sep. 18th, 2012 01:28 am (UTC)
Jeezum crow, do the schools want to be known as essentially bullying kids by forbidding a positive message like that? That absolutely sucks.

I'm so proud of you and your son! You're a fabulous mom and an amazing advocate!

And I'm crossing fingers this gets resolved in a sensitive and respectful fashion on the part of he school's reps. Because they do not want to keep crossing lines like that! Uncool x a billionty!
mangofandango
Sep. 18th, 2012 02:40 am (UTC)
If it in any way counts for anything, I want to be all I'VE GOT YOUR BACK, STONEY. Because goddamnit I wish I could kick some administrators on behalf of you and your awesome kid.
wowbright
Sep. 18th, 2012 04:57 am (UTC)
I'm glad your awesome son has such an awesome mom to stand up for/with him.
justa_reader
Sep. 18th, 2012 01:37 pm (UTC)
The fact that your son was asked to hide his t-shirt's slogan kinda proves the necessity and truth of those words, ainna?

I'll just be proud from a distance for the courage and strength your son is showing, and for all the other kids at his school who are refusing to fit in the identical little boxes high school tries to place around kids. I know you've got this. You're quite the backbone.
canuckpagali
Sep. 18th, 2012 08:42 pm (UTC)
Somewhat off topic but... what does that Game Over shirt mean? I'm clearly missing something.
stoney321
Sep. 18th, 2012 08:48 pm (UTC)
As in "Game Over, Buddy. No more 'playing.'" You're dead, etc. etc.

Hurr? Lame lame lame joke.
canuckpagali
Sep. 19th, 2012 04:30 pm (UTC)
Hmmm... to continue the off-topicness... wow... um... I don't see the humour. But I suppose some people would. Do high-school kids actually wear T-shirts like that?. Or is it the kind of thing presented to the guest of honour at a bachelor party?

To try to get back to the topic at hand, though, yeah, I would imagine that this T-shirt would not be against the dress code if a kid were to wear it. And neither should "legalize gay."

Keep us posted on how you follow up on this. I'd be very interested. Due to the fact that it has better support for kids with special needs, my kid goes to a school within a Catholic school board. I suspect I'll have a battle or two to fight -- if not about sexuality issues, then about other stuff -- in the years ahead. I'd like to learn from a pro!

Possibly useful bit of contextual info -- but tangential. Due to a quirk of history, Catholic schools are publicly funded in my province. It can lead to some interesting situations from time to time...
Christina Morrison
Sep. 19th, 2012 09:18 am (UTC)
what happened......
Don't leave me in suspense......
(Anonymous)
Sep. 20th, 2012 12:10 am (UTC)
Posting anonymously because I don't even sort of want this connected to my face/name, sadly.

8 years ago when I moved here for a teaching job there was a new district-wide rule banning "non-curriculum-related clubs" that got handed down. As a newbie to the district I asked people in my school what the deal was. I had hopes to start an anime club but couldn't figure out how to justify it within a course curriculum. (We had an "illicit" anime club instead for a couple of years.) The unofficial story was that students at one of the high schools had tried to start a Gay/Straight Alliance and were shot down. In order to justify that without getting in legal trouble, the district made this blanket rule. That was depressing to discover. :(

No one's tried again since, which makes me sad. Pretty much the entire central office staff since then has retired and there are all sorts of "unofficial" non-curriculum-related clubs.Like Chess Club! Plus, the rule could never hold up if it was tested - they allow the Fellowship of Christian Athletes to have an official club, the debate team (we don't have a debate class anymore) and a Step Team (which is awesome).

So I wish some parents around here would come kick ass. As an employee, it's a little harder to speak out.
peneli
Sep. 20th, 2012 12:15 am (UTC)
As a teacher, I would like to point out that enforcement of dress code depends pretty much entirely on whether any adult in the building a) sees and notices the offending article of clothing and b) has the time and give-a-shits to do anything about it.

Not that I think that shirt shouldn't be allowed. Your son is awesome. Tell him so.

But a lot of the inconsistency people notice about dress codes in general has less to do with bigotry and more to do with us being overwhelmed. I give up on reporting dress code violations for boys with sagging pants after the second one for a day. I just don't have the energy to do more than yell "pull up your pants" at them in the hall, especially if I don't know the kid. (I don't notice it in my own classes cuz they're sitting down and I'm looking at their faces anyway.) Between the pants and the girls who need to put a shirt on and stopping actual fights outside the bathrooms next to my class, I often can't be bothered to worry about what your kid's shirt says as long as it isn't an obvious call to violence.

Edited at 2012-09-21 01:30 am (UTC)
kseenaa
Sep. 20th, 2012 08:40 pm (UTC)
Well, no wonder your son rocks with a mother like you. I hope you got to bring thee smackdown to whatever idiot it was.
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