There's a problem I've been faced with recently, and I'm interested in the general/median opinion on this particular subject. Hang in there with me.
Parent A gives Child C a vehicle for their birthday, a vehicle that is fairly new, energy efficient, and well maintained. Child C cannot drive car without an adult for several more weeks due to a quirky state law, but Child C often wants to practice their driving throughout the week. Parent A has their own vehicle, albeit an inefficient car, gas-wise.
The problem: Parent A continually takes Child C's car to work, to run errands, etc. because "it's energy efficient and it's just sitting there," often not asking permission because they "bought it." This leaves Child C without the opportunity to practice their driving with Parent B.
Parent A taking car as they will is:
absolutely acceptable; they paid for it.
absolutely acceptable; it's energy efficient and that's the bottom line.
problematic, but not wrong.
wrong; a gift was given, ergo unlimited access isn't implicit.
wrong, without asking permission regardless of the "gift" status. One should always ask, that's the only valid issue.
Fancy sandwich, duh!
Hangy boogers n flies.
tacos. Always tacos.
anything edible at this point just consume!
I want to stress that Child C is INCREDIBLE grateful and gracious about their gift, so ixnay that from the discussion.
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