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Very important poll for you - no, really!

So, I love doing polls, because I actually learn a lot about my flist and the world around me. *cue flutes and scampering bunnies* But really, I do. And I love when people realize that I'm just a wonk with a keyboard and don't get all bowed up about accuracy, etc., as if I am being scientific or academic in any way. HINT: I'm not. I'm just a curious journaler with a thirst for knowledge.

There's a problem I've been faced with recently, and I'm interested in the general/median opinion on this particular subject. Hang in there with me.

Parent A gives Child C a vehicle for their birthday, a vehicle that is fairly new, energy efficient, and well maintained. Child C cannot drive car without an adult for several more weeks due to a quirky state law, but Child C often wants to practice their driving throughout the week. Parent A has their own vehicle, albeit an inefficient car, gas-wise.

The problem: Parent A continually takes Child C's car to work, to run errands, etc. because "it's energy efficient and it's just sitting there," often not asking permission because they "bought it." This leaves Child C without the opportunity to practice their driving with Parent B.
Poll #1918724 When is a Gift not a Gift?

Parent A taking car as they will is:

absolutely acceptable; they paid for it.
6(4.6%)
absolutely acceptable; it's energy efficient and that's the bottom line.
4(3.1%)
problematic, but not wrong.
16(12.2%)
wrong; a gift was given, ergo unlimited access isn't implicit.
37(28.2%)
wrong, without asking permission regardless of the "gift" status. One should always ask, that's the only valid issue.
68(51.9%)

*belly rumble*

Nachos.
30(20.1%)
Fancy sandwich, duh!
33(22.1%)
SOUPS.
19(12.8%)
Hangy boogers n flies.
2(1.3%)
tacos. Always tacos.
36(24.2%)
anything edible at this point just consume!
29(19.5%)


I want to stress that Child C is INCREDIBLE grateful and gracious about their gift, so ixnay that from the discussion.

IN OTHER NEWS: I want to remind the public at large that at Hey, Don't Judge Me, we exist to be a place where fans can happily and safely talk about things we love. Not that people can't be critical, just don't be a dick about it. HAVING SAID THAT, my writers work very hard and for NO MONEY at what they do. And if someone leaves them a jerky or hateful comment (especially when it's clear that person is just furthering their agenda without even bothering to understand my writer's POV) they will be called out publicly, and then they will be banned.

I want people to feel safe when they get into discussions. I want people to have ONE PLACE on the internet where they can love things without fear of being made fun of or attacked for loving something in a fannish way. More than that? I want my writers to feel safe expressing their fannish love. That's the whole point.

So for all of you that respect that (either by joining in or staying away) THANK YOU.

Comments

poshcat
Jun. 13th, 2013 06:21 pm (UTC)
You've already received some excellent advice, but here's my two cents anyway (although we have no more pennies in Canada, so I'll have to scrounge a couple American ones from the bottom of my purse).

Mr Posh would do exactly the same thing, and I would react the exact same way as you...although my kids would not be quite as willing to stay quiet and accept it, I do believe. At this point I don't bother to say anything to Mr Posh, as I've come to the conclusion that he's like a child himself and has to learn from the natural consequences of his actions rather than from me nagging him. Therefore, when the girls don't respect him because he doesn't respect them, when they yell at him because he yells at them, when they give him the cold shoulder when he wants hugs and love because he's unloaded his dripping sarcasm when he chose not to control his temper...then what does he expect to happen???

When they were little I protected the living daylights out of them from his anger, damn the consequences to my marriage. Now they're older and I just talk to them afterward about their dad's temper, and point out that he loves them to bits (which he does). So far, they're philosophical, if not somewhat bitter.

Haha, it seems I have no advice after all. Um...get everyone on the same page, no matter what that page may be. Also, drink more.

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